Limbo land...

It seems we have found ourselves stuck in a strange and uncomfortable land...Limbo Land...What was once solid, concrete plans, are now thrown to the wind...And we wait...We are trying to be patient.....If you didn't already know, patience is NOT one of my best character traits, lol.

Ok, I will back up a little bit...And take you through this little journey from the beginning...

In September 2013, I had some health issues, that landed me in emergency surgery, which resulted in some unforeseen complications (they accidently cut open my colon, yes those things DO happen..lol)..It left us a bit shaken, and we decided to stop playing around and living in this mundane cycle of just going through the motions, and start talking about our next 5 and 10 year goals etc. We had to make some hard decisions about where we were going to be headed once we left NY (we have been set on leaving NY for years, just had not been 100% certain on the location in which we wanted to go to after leaving) And downsizing the house when we buy again,, and what possibly part time work for me would look like...It was all exhausting, thinking about hypotheticals...We agreed though, that these things needed to happen sooner rather than later, and we gave ourselves till feb 2014, to figure out what we were going to do.... But, we also agreed, we needed to take a little "break" from the real life stuff too and have some FUN together!... 

After such a crazy last couple of years, with numerous pregnancy losses, church craziness, ending of relationships with people you thought you trusted, and then, just plain stupid decisions made by us, and subsequently, reaping natural consequences from ALL those choices...It just plain sucked... But  can tell you...MANY, many lessons were learned...It is funny how you learn more in the hard times, than in the good...Anyway...I digress.

After much discussion, we decided to bite the bullet and take a trip to see my parents out in California. It had been nearly 7 years since we had been out...We needed a vacation...I NEEDED to see my MOM, especially after that surgery scare.....It was a win, win...And it JUST so happened, some unforeseen money come our way, and I scored the plane tix for less than half the regular price!!!...We were over the moon! 

The 12 days we spent in California, back in Oct/Nov were absolutely soul soothing, heart healing, and magical... We made so many amazing memories...

It was about halfway through our trip, when I realized my husband was seeming a bit intense..No doubt, the conversations we had before vacation were weighing on him , now that he had no work to take away from that focus...I knew something was turning in his head, I just did not know what.  The next day or so after probing a little ( ok, a LOT)...It finally came out...He had began to consider moving out to CA...I was a bit shocked...I did notice how much more affordable the housing was in the area we liked,  and even taxes were cheaper...But most of all...My parents were out there....

Many of you remember me saying.. I will NEVER, ever, ever move back to Cali, ever!"...Well, its kind of this running joke me and God have...I say "never", and he says, "Oh REALLY!?...we will see about that...lol" ( Yes God LOL's at me, we have that kind of relationship... heheheh)......You see,  stuff happens...Perspectives are shifted by experiences, good and bad...People change. I have changed. 

When we had discussed moving in the past, ( and we have planned on leaving NY for years) moving to a warmer, sunnier area was KEY...We had thought NC, SC or TX possibly. But none of those places had family close by. Jared's mom is here in NY and mine is in CA...Staying in NY was OUT of the question, for so many reasons. So, I began to see the logic behind his thinking...Especially since we were seeing it was affordable, and doable. We decided to kind of bench the idea till we were back home and had our real life glasses on, and not the vacation ones that made everything seem possible ..LOL...But both of us kept thinking about it...I could tell each time our eyes would meet, and we both had a certain smile...

We got back home, and  we talked some more, and decided to see what a transfer with his company would look like. Things were getting more serious, much more than we anticipated, especially so soon! After a couple meetings with a few of his boss's, we had gotten word, the end of February/beg. March would be our target date to move! We were shocked, and sooo excited! We rushed to get the house ready to sell, and packed about 80 percent of our things, downsized, etc and even through the holidays, kept focused. At the start of Jan 2014, we listed. 

End of jan 2014...We get news from the corporate chain at Jared's work, that cuts are being made, and "restructuring" is happening, so the transfer may be pushed out till april but no worries...Ok, No big deal...

Beginning of Feb..."It could be 6 to 8 months, maybe longer"...Basically NO one knows what is going on...And TONS of people are being told they cannot transfer for 18 months or more, no matter what the location is...So it isn't just our transfer that is being affected. 

One sliver of hope is, he reached out to a past mentor who works with the company still, and is now at headquarters. He is going to see if any of his contacts can assist in getting this transfer moved through sooner, and possibly with an even better position than we initially thought! There are NO guarantees, but we are praying for some favor here... 

In other news...The House selling...UGH...All I will say is, the next house we buy, I will DIE in, before I sell again...It is just utter ridiculousness! Dealing with the buyers flaky, unprofessional agents is grating in my nerves...BUT, my house has never been this clean, consistently...LOL! We have had a couple of "almost offers" but it was between us and another house, and the other houses won. But in hindsight, had we accepted an offer and pushed to close sooner, rather than later, we might be homeless, waiting for this darn transfer! So, I am not going to get discouraged about that one bit. 

I just have a pet peeve about people who have no courtesy for others when scheduling showings, and either coming uber late and displacing us for 3 hours with 4 kids and a dog in 10 below weather, just to say "meh, I don't like the yard", to just plain not showing up, and after cleaning for 3 hours I was less than thrilled....But, I guess it is all apart of the "experience"...One I hope to NOT relive again!